Hi and welcome to the most powerful week of the Reverse Your Insulin Resistance Challenge! I know I say that every week and I can’t believe we’re at week 10 already! Welcome to self-love superpower! I promise you that this week is the most powerful and important. Once you learn self-love superpower and that you can hop into the phone booth like Clark Kent and become Superman whenever your world needs saving, it’s so powerful. Self-love superpower is always available to you.
What Is Self-Love Superpower?
Self-love superpower is a daily intentional habit practice. There’s no arrival point. It’s a skill and we are often taught the opposite in our society. We’re taught that listening to the negative self-talk inner critic is what motivates us to take action. Research (yes, amazing coaching research) shows that coaching with compassion creates positive emotion activation, which is what it takes to take action on a goal. In other words, when the going gets tough, you don’t need to be whipped into shape by Judge Judy in your brain. You need a nurturing hug and self-compassion to create any result you want.
Self-love superpower is not like a switch where you just automatically start loving yourself, especially if you’ve been believing the Judge Judy negative self-talk critic in your brain who starts blabbing on whenever you want to make a change. Remember, thoughts are optional and you are not your thoughts. Beliefs are powerful thoughts on a loop in our brain and if you keep believing beliefs (fun play on words here) that don’t serve you, you will keep creating current results you don’t want.
Week 10 of the IME Reverse Your Insulin Resistance Challenge: Self-Love Superpower
5 steps to say I am Me Monday
Do you fully love and accept yourself no matter what?
Here’s the exciting news. You can fully love and accept yourself starting right now. All you have to do is follow the IME Community five easy steps to full self-acceptance.
What does self-acceptance mean to you?
Did you know that self-acceptance has absolutely nothing to do with your weight?
So, let’s get started with the IME 5 steps to say I aM mE
- Understand that self-acceptance is always available to you
- Choose to believe you don’t have to wait until you hav reached a goal to fully accept yourself.
- Stop staying stuck believing something that isn’t serving you.
- Start creating and accepting beliefs that serve you and your dreams.
- Create a daily self-acceptance habit.
Try these IME Community self-acceptance mantras:
- I fully love and accept myself.
- I love and accept myself.
- I am learning to fully love and accept myself.
Make up your own self-acceptance mantra that feels believable to you!
Now, you’re ready to go out into the world and remember that your warm self-acceptance blanket is always there for you!
What is self-compassion Tuesday
- My all-time favorite self-compassion guru and researcher is Dr. Kristin Neff. Along with incredible coaching from my life and well-being coach (Kristin Webster, MA, CLC), Dr. Neff’s work has transformed my life. You may want to check out her most recent book, “Fierce Self-Compassion”. She describes self-compassion in three areas: self-kindness, mindfulness and common humanity. I recommend checking out her website self-compassion.org and testing your level of self-compassion. I did and found out I was low on self-kindness.
- One thing that has been very helpful when learning to practice self-compassion is when a situation feels hard, talk to yourself like you would a friend who is going through the same situation. We would never talk to a friend who is having a hard time the same way we talk to ourselves. They probably wouldn’t be a friend for much longer. Am I right?
- What are the times you have helped a friend with compassion?
- Start talking with compassion to yourself in the same way you talked to your friend who was having a tough time.
Building Self-trust Wednesday
- What would it be like to create evidence that you can trust yourself to show up for you and your goal? Yesterday, I coached you on self-compassion, which is a daily intentional habit practice. You build self-trust when you practice self-compassion. Maybe you call it self-kindness or full self-acceptance. It doesn’t matter. What it means is that instead of attaching to negative self-talk thoughts that come up when things are not going your way, you recognize you’re being hard on yourself, and then mobilize your self-love superpower thoughts.
- Instead of, “You’ll never get this in on time because you’re so lazy,” try, “I have my back and won’t be hard on myself no matter when I turn it in.”
What’s your self-love mantra Thursday
- Self-love superpower is a daily intentional habit practice. There’s no arrival point. It’s a skill and we are often taught the opposite in our society. We’re taught that listening to the negative self-talk inner critic is what motivates us to take action. Research (yes, amazing coaching research) shows that coaching with compassion creates positive emotion activation, which is what it takes to take action on a goal. In other words, when the going gets tough, you don’t need to be whipped into shape by Judge Judy in your brain. You need a nurturing hug and self-compassion to create any result you want.
- Self-love superpower is not like a switch where you just automatically start loving yourself, especially if you’ve been believing the Judge Judy negative self-talk critic in your brain who starts blabbing on whenever you want to make a change. Remember, thoughts are optional and you are not your thoughts. Beliefs are powerful thoughts on a loop in our brain and if you keep believing beliefs (fun play on words here) that don’t serve you, you will keep creating current results you don’t want.
- This practice takes the power away from the negative and allows you to create a new more positive focus. When I am being hard on myself, I feel it physically in my body. I feel very tired right away, my jaw clenches and tightens up and it feels like I am pushing my way through even the most minimal tasks that shouldn’t take that much energy. What’s happening is I’m resisting my emotions, which is like holding a beach ball under water. It’s a major energy zapper.
- It was Carl Jung who said, what you focus on, we create more of. You can create a self-love superpower pathway in your brain.
- What are your self-compassion mantras (powerful affirmations) that you can say to yourself to disrupt the power of the negative self-talk?
- “This is really hard right now. “
- “I don’t cause and I don’t control all of the things in life.”
- “It’s okay.”
- “I don’t need to fix anything.”
- “I am enough.”
- “May I be kind to myself as I’m working through this.”
- Here’s the self-love superpower steps:
Be Kind to Yourself First Friday
- Self-kindness isn’t cheesy or syrupy. It’s not staring at yourself in the mirror and chanting self-kindness affirmations. Feel free to do that if it is helpful. You look marvelous, by the way!
- Self-love starts with loving yourself unconditionally. In our society and many of our families, we believe that self-love is selfish. It’s not at all. It’s the opposite. Self-love is the most loving practice you can be to others. This is so important. It’s like putting on your oxygen mask first so you can help others with theirs. If you don’t have oxygen, you won’t be any help to anyone. Self-love is fuel for our meaningful and purposeful lives and self-kindness is one of the most important steps in moving towards self-love superpower. Self-kindness is learned and is to be practiced. It’s always available to you.
What are the ways you practice self-kindness every day? Hint: self-kindness is not self-care.
Stop self-judging Saturday
- I love coaching teens because teens soak up the life coaching skills like a sponge. It’s so fun! I was recently coaching a member of IME Community and she wanted some coaching on time management. She always gets her homework done, but was stuck in a pattern of judging herself as a procrastinator and was really listening to her Judge Judy inner critic. She was really believing that inner critic negative self-talk. I asked her powerful coaching questions, “What are you making it mean?” There was a lot of self-judging and labeling herself as a procrastinator. I told her, “Can you think about it in a different way that serves you?” “Can you see how your attachment to the belief keeps creating the result you don’t want?” “What would it be like to create a belief that serves you and your goals?” She decided to do a belief upgrade and recognize when Judge Judy thoughts are coming up, write them down, and the create a self-love superpower belief upgrade instead. Once you have awareness, then you have the choice to let fixed and limited beliefs go and create beliefs that create the results you want. It’s so powerful!
- Now, list five beliefs about you and your goals and try a self-love superpower belief upgrade:
Have your own back no matter what Sunday
- “Don’t stop believing” unless it’s a belief that doesn’t serve you and “Hold onto that feeling” if you want to. I love Steve Perry’s voice and everyone knows this song about a small town girl living in a lonely world who took the midnight train going anywhere and that city boy born and raised in south Detroit.
- We’ve been talking a lot in the coaching calls about rejecting diet thinking and culture. That’s an important first step along with learning self-love superpower instead of listening to that negative self-talk, inner critic that seems to always come up when we take action on our goals.
- When we’re being hard on ourselves, we can recognize or acknowledge when that negative voice comes up, create a pause and practice our self-compassion or self-love mantras. This is a skill that allows us to build self-trust and know we will have our own back as we move along toward our goals. So powerful!
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Reverse Your Insulin Resistance Challenge Table of Contents
Week 1: Introduction
Week 2: Why Do We Overeat?
Week 5: Social Media Friend Drama
Week 7: Your Metabolic Health
Week 8: Positive Body Image
Week 9: Diffusing Low Carb Confusion
Week 10: Self Love Superpower
Week 11: Stress Less, Sleep More